Faith and Values: FāVS to relaunch in-person gatherings to build community and bridge divisions
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The pandemic affirmed my inner hermit.
Curling up with a book or going on a solo hike or bike ride has always taken less energy for me than being in a crowd.
I once read that telling an introvert to go to a party is like telling a saint to go to hell.
This proved true when I went to a party at my friend’s house the other day and found myself hiding in the kitchen, backed up against the side of the fridge, like a trapped mouse. Luckily my wife was with me, calming my nerves with her smiling eyes.
In the end, I’m glad I went. I had fun. I talked to colleagues and new friends, and felt my nerves easing as the evening went on.
Ironically, I chose a sociable career.
As a professor, I’m in class all day engaging with students. Similarly, as a journalist, I’m constantly meeting new people and dialoguing with them.
I love what I do, but I’m drained by the time I get home.
In “The Secret Lives of Introverts: Inside our Hidden” Jenn Granneman wrote, “Introverts live in two worlds: We visit the world of people, but solitude and the inner world will always be our home.”
It doesn’t mean I don’t like being around others. In fact, I need community.
Similar to motivating myself to work out in the basement on a cold day, it takes intention to peel myself away from, well, myself, and go to people. Afterward, I always feel better and am glad I did it.
When I moved to this area to start FāVS, an online religion news publication, I wanted to find a way to bring people together, offline. I knew that meant stepping out of my comfort zone.
I couldn’t hide behind my notepad if I was going to try and engage readers and build community with them.
So I started Coffee Talks, a panel discussion held at local coffee houses lead by FāVS writers. We brought readers and writers together – all faiths and nonfaiths – to openly talk about difficult, but important things.
Our first Coffee Talk was in January 2013 at Chairs Coffee (RIP) and was titled “Angry at God,” held in response to the shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary in Newtown, Connecticut. It was standing room only, including a room full of conservative and progressive Christians, Muslims and atheists. People cried, hugged.
I knew I had to keep these conversations going, even if it meant stammering an anxious welcome in front of a crowd full of strangers.
Over the years, we talked about gender and spirituality, money and ethics, religion and patriotism and other challenging topics. In time, these discussions became so popular that we outgrew local coffee shops.
More importantly, through Coffee Talks relationships were being formed – for me and for others. Jews and Christians were becoming friends, Evangelicals and Muslims were having coffee dates, and I was getting to know FāVS readers in a meaningful way.
Then, like it did so many things, the COVID-19 pandemic came and shut Coffee Talks down. We tried organizing them on Zoom, but it wasn’t the same and we lost our momentum.
For many occasions – work meetings and webinars – I like being able to attend virtually with my camera off. But I miss my FāVS community. They inspire me, they teach me, they challenge me, and I need them.
So we’re relaunching our events, and we even hired someone to help us organize them. We’re starting with a FāVS Happy Hour, a reunion, on March 23 at 6:30 p.m. at ELEVAR, 1407 W. First Ave. There will be live music, a cash bar (with nonalcoholic drink options) and plenty of people, like me, looking to connect with people who care about building community and bridging divisions. (There is a $10 charge for non-FāVS members).
I hope you’ll come. If you do, please find me and say hello. I’d like to meet you.
Tracy Simmons, a longtime religion reporter, is a Washington State University scholarly assistant professor and the editor of FāVS News, a website dedicated to covering faith, ethics and values in the Spokane region.