Dear Annie: Staying away from social media

Dear Annie: I do not engage in social media platforms for a few reasons. First and foremost, I cherish face-to-face communication along with the sound of another’s voice and real human interaction. I long for it. It is not as if I never gave social media a chance. I did, for years.

I found that people are very superficial online and that seeing that side of people actually made me feel very different about them. I chose to take it all down before I began working at a school.

Ever since then, people I thought I was close to – those I considered my inner circle and even my own siblings – have slowly stopped communicating with me. It almost seems as if, if you are not on Facebook, you don’t exist. I call or text people and they do not respond. There are very few who seem to understand that the phone works both ways.

I will run into people I have known most of my life who seem excited to see me; they ask where I have been, and they ask if I am on Facebook. When I tell them I do not use social media, I often tell them I have had the same phone number and email address for 25 years and inform them that I have reached out to them – by text, phone or email – and have gotten no response. The reply I get comes across as lazy to me. It is usually, “Oh, I don’t have time to sit on the phone.” Yet they will have the time to spend hours on social media, even posting pictures of what they eat.

Am I doomed to a life of solitude if I don’t give in to the worldwide obsession with social media? The loss of social skills in this world concerns me. – No Communication

Dear No Communication: There is nothing wrong with not wanting to be on social media. My guess is that you will have more “quality friends” over many “quantity friends.” Would you rather have four silver quarters or 100 pennies in your pocket? You will get the quality if you continue to be you. Listen to your intuition about not wanting social media. You are ahead of your time. People are becoming increasingly aware of the negative impact of social media on their mental health

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