Dear Annie: Immature grandpa

Dear Annie: I love being a grandpa, but it seems all my fellow adults have a totally different impression of what a grandfather is supposed to be. My wife says I should be a role model and authority figure, which to me translates to being stern and official. Our daughter says essentially the same thing as her mother.

Our grandchildren are 7 and 8 years old, and when I am with them, I can’t help but act like someone their age.

When I make jokes that involve potty humor, the kids love them. It never gets old when I say something like “pull my finger” and the kids just break up laughing. This makes me feel so good – and close to them.

But my wife says I am acting so immaturely that it is ridiculous. My daughter and son-in-law say that my jokes have gotten the kids in trouble with their teachers.

I am in my 70s but feel much younger. Any advice for this old kid? – Gramps With a Kid’s Mind

Dear Gramps: Staying youthful is great, but keep it clean. You seek attention and love from your grandchildren, and your youthful enthusiasm with them is very special – as long as your humor and fun show your maturity and age. You know better.

Dear Annie: “Get Out of My House” can take her own advice. She is deeply frustrated that she has to pay for groceries, cook and do all the cleanup while her husband’s freeloading relatives stay at her house not to visit her and her husband but to spend time in their old hometown.

Next time they indicate they are coming again, she should tell them they can stay as long as they’d like but she’ll be solo elsewhere. Once her mate carries such a load, he’ll end these drop-bys on his own. – On-the-Ground Relative

Dear On-the-Ground Relative: No better way to learn than through experience, so that would be quite the lesson for her husband indeed. Thanks for writing.