Suicide hotline may have answer

Dear Annie: My son is 25 years old with a college degree and an excellent job. The sad thing is, he is depressed. He won’t go for treatment. He goes to work, comes home and sits in front of his computer.

I have spoken to professionals myself, but they all say the same thing: He is an adult and must get help on his own. But he doesn’t think he is sick. Meanwhile, he complains that he can’t find a girlfriend, while his friends are all in relationships or married. If we suggest he join a group, he won’t leave his room. He says he’ll end his life. We are so worried about him. – Sad Mother

Dear Sad: This is so difficult for a parent to deal with. The doctors are right that your son must want their assistance. You can listen to him, show compassion and let him know that a professional is trained to help him sort through his feelings. In the meantime, phone the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (suicideprevention hotline.org). Someone there can help you.

Dear Annie: I have the responsibility of watching over two older relatives when they are no longer capable of taking care of themselves. Right now, I spend a great deal of time in their company, and it’s not a problem.

So what is? This couple likes to drop in uninvited to social events (especially when food is served).

Should I tell them that they are behaving in a way that is improper and impolite, or just let them socialize while they are still able? – Embarrassed

Dear Embarrassed: If you are not currently the caregiver for this couple, and they can manage on their own, this is not yet your problem. However, if you believe they no longer understand what constitutes appropriate behavior, you should let them know and suggest they make an appointment with their doctor.

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