Annie’s Mailbox: Intimacy over 50 ‘awesome,’ wife says

Dear Annie: Our experience as an over-50 couple has been entirely different from that of the couple who were having the problems with intimacy.

When my husband and I retired, we both got back in shape after 40 years behind desks. I felt better and younger than I did at 25. I took up belly-dancing, and even though I can’t seem to make it past the beginner level, my husband thinks it is very sexy. I try to build up his confidence in the bedroom even when things are less than perfect, and he does the same for me. We both have loads of fun trying new things, and after this many years, there is absolutely no pressure to perform. Sex after 50 is awesome. – Flirtin’ in Florida

Dear Florida: Good for you! We love your attitude.

Dear Annie: I have been at my job for more than 20 years and will be retiring soon. Co-workers have been asking whether I would like a party and gifts. I’ve made it clear that I want absolutely nothing and politely suggested that they donate to the local food bank.

I don’t like these people. I will not “keep in touch.” I am happy to leave this miserable job. So if they give me a cake or gifts, is it OK to simply express my thanks, or do I have to send a thank-you note? All gifts will end up in the trash, and I have no intention of participating in any celebration. – New York Grouch

Dear Grouch: Verbal thanks are sufficient for an office cake or party. If you are given a gift, however, a thank-you note is in order. We think you can manage it, especially because it’s likely to be the last communication you will have with these people. It never hurts to depart on a gracious note.