Food selection at wedding up to couple

While I’m away, readers give the advice.

On the curiously combustible mix of weddings and vegetables:

I am a major meat-eater, but I think if the couple getting married do not feel it is ethical to spend their money on meat, they should not be asked to serve it. One meatless meal is not going to kill anyone. My niece was not only a vegetarian but a vegan. Before her wedding, my brothers and I joked that we might be running out for a burger after the reception, but actually the food was delicious.

The couple’s parents may think it is rude for the couple to impose their dietary restrictions on others. Well, I think it’s rude for the parents to impose theirs on the bride and groom. If the dietary restrictions were for a religious reason, I don’t think anyone would be trying to tell the couple what should be served. – Accepting Carnivore

On being happily married and unhappily pregnant:

These days we seem to work from the assumption that just the thought of a baby is an unmitigated joy to its parents; maybe we ought to get some perspective by recalling when family planning was not so common. I remember mom telling me about a late-stage miscarriage she’d had: “I was of course dismayed to think I was pregnant again, but after a few months I started thinking about how nice it would be to have a baby in the house again. … ” Note, “of course dismayed.”

The whole point of birth control is that this blessing we have, our fertility, is not always convenient or 100 percent welcome. If the only possible reaction to a pregnancy from a happily married woman could be joy, there would be no happily married women on the pill. – L.

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