Testosterone not always to blame

Dear Annie: I have had all I can take from your female readers who complain about the lack of intimacy from their husbands. You tell them to have their husband’s testosterone checked and seek counseling. Allow me to give you a better answer. It’s true that men, as they get older and live with their partners for years, might not be as excited about intimacy as in their younger days. That does not mean they are not interested in intimacy. It means they are not interested in their partner.

Here are my questions for those female readers: How big is your rear end? Do you have numerous health issues that make your partner think he is living in a nursing home? Are you out of shape and overweight because you sit, eat and watch TV all day? Do you snore, keeping your partner up most of the night?

I could go on, but I think you get the point. In my opinion, 80 percent of females over the age of 30 are overweight, and a good percentage are obese. Let’s face it. They are not sexy. So, after 30-plus years of marriage, you look at your spouse, and what else can I say? I know men have issues, too, but we don’t all need to have our testosterone checked if we are not intimately excited by our mate. This does not mean we don’t still love them. – Bob (Location Secret for Obvious Reasons)

Dear Bob: Well, you are certainly frank. But the majority of our sex-deprived male readers have let us know that they would rather be intimate with their 50-plus wives than with anyone else. They want the affection that intimacy provides, regardless of body shape or age. But we are certain you will have provoked our readers, who will be eager to set you straight, so … let the games begin.