No photos of wife on hubby’s FB page

Dear Annie: My husband and I each have our own profiles on Facebook, and we are “friends,” so we can see each other’s profiles. Several weeks ago, I noticed that he had deleted all pictures of me from his photo album. When I asked him about it, he said it was “accidental.” I asked him to put at least one photo of me back on there, and he said he would, but so far, he hasn’t.

His profile photo on this site is our wedding picture with my face cropped out. Coincidentally, his friends have been inviting him more frequently to events that do not include me (although I notice that on occasion some of the other wives are there). The last event they had, they made sure to invite our dog but not me.

Am I right to feel hurt? Should I be suspicious? – Worried

Dear Worried: Let’s see. Your husband has deleted your photo from his networking site and cropped you out of his wedding picture. His friends exclude you from events where other wives are present. They’d rather socialize with your dog than you. Suspicious? You bet. Your husband is clearly telling you something about the state of your relationship, and it isn’t good. Ask him to go with you for counseling to figure out how best to handle this.

Dear Annie: This is for “Anxiously Awaiting,” who had an elective bilateral mastectomy and her husband still won’t look at her naked. My wife of 42 years is a survivor of breast cancer. After the radical mastectomy, she, too, wondered if I would ever again look at her in the nude. My answer was to remind her of our marriage vows: “In sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do us part.” I said we need to add “in pieces and in parts.”

I asked her, “Would you leave me if I lost a leg in an accident?” She said, “No.” I didn’t marry her for breasts. She also has a heart condition, lung scarring and lupus. I love her anyway. At least she’s here. – In Pieces and In Love