Pick it and play it during delivery

Music has always been an important part of Destiny Martin’s life. So it made sense to bring her first child into the world with song. She even had the perfect one selected: the Beatles’ “In My Life.”

The mix CD she prepared for her delivery had a similar sampling of loving and peaceful music, from “Seasons of Love” from the “Rent” soundtrack to “What a Wonderful World” by Louis Armstrong.

So three years later, Martin, 29, still finds it funny that baby Jolie entered the world not to Paul McCartney but to Metallica.

Martin had put the song “Nothing Else Matters” on the CD as a nod to her metal-loving husband, and that’s what happened to be playing when their daughter was born. Martin said she finds the song’s message appropriate.

“Nothing else matters, that’s the whole point,” she said. “It never works out like you expect it.”

Martin’s efforts to usher her child into the world with music, down to having the song selected, are yet another way mothers are customizing their labor and delivery environment. And hospitals are doing their part to accommodate the trend, from piping in music to providing CD players or allowing parents to bring iPod docks and laptops.

Childbirth experts say couples are increasingly making music a part of their births, and the emergence of MP3 players allow them to draw from a wide variety of songs and to even put together playlists for different stages of birth.

Tina Cassidy, author of “Birth: The Surprising History of How We Are Born,” (Atlantic Monthly Press, 2006) said it’s natural for women to want music around them during labor.

“If you go way back into history, singing was always a part of giving birth,” Cassidy said.

Today’s moms are using music in a variety of ways in the delivery room, bringing everything from meditative tapes to help them relax, to Salt-N-Pepa to help them, literally, “Push It.”

Siobhan Mueller, 36, of Arlington, Va., made an iTunes playlist of her favorite mellow comfort songs for the birth of her first child, including a W Hotel CD that conjured memories of a great trip she and her husband had taken.

“I had heard that this whole child birth thing was painful, so I knew that I wanted to be comfortable, and bring as many comfort items as possible,” Mueller said.

And a comfortable mother can make for a healthier baby.

“The benefits are that (music) does, in a lot of patients, blunt the stress response, which actually can contribute to some problems during labor, such as decreased blood flow to the fetus,” said Dr. Fred Schwartz, an Atlanta physician considered a pioneer in using music as medicine.

Schwartz is the producer of Transitions, a series of CDs that use instrumental music, actual womb sounds and a soothing woman’s voice to help infants sleep and women relax during childbirth.

The evolution of the labor and delivery experience is also due, in no small part, to women gaining more power over their lives overall, experts said.

That need to be in control can get moms into trouble, however, especially if they think the birth will go precisely according to their plans. Trying to deliver to a certain song is a sweet idea but highly unlikely, experts said.

“You’re cruising for a bruising if you’re laying your expectations on everything going by the numbers,” said Scott Adler, managing editor of BabyCenter.com.

But as Martin and others have learned, the music fates are not without a sense of humor.

Lua Hancock, 31, of Davie, Fla., was in the midst of having an emergency C-section with her first child when she decided to focus on the music coming from the anesthesiologist’s radio to calm her nerves.

The song playing?

“The First Cut is the Deepest” by Sheryl Crow.

“At the time I even saw the humor in it,” Hancock said, still chuckling three years later.

“I’m due in May with my second child, and that song will definitely be on (my iPod mix),” she said. “That’s my C-section song.”