No compassionate sense
My young friend, Laura, writes about the funeral for her mom who died in 2007: "Something I wish I had known was that at a Catholic funeral mass there can't be a flower arrangement on top of the casket. There is a cross and a sheet (pall). So I paid $200 for a bunch of roses that sat in the back of the church."
This sad day was made more difficult when the mourners had to serve the ritual, instead of the ritual serving the family.